We all ride the same rollercoaster!

We all ride the same rollercoaster. Or do we?

In counseling a number of years ago I had a young lady who was working through past abuse. Her father had neglected her and the devastating scars ran really deep. My heart went out to her! In the healing process she finally built up the courage to have a conversation with one of her siblings. As she poured out her heart, she was surprised to discover her sibling didn’t feel the same way! They both agreed their dad wasn’t very loving, but one didn’t see it as abusive at all.

They both rode this same parental rollercoaster growing up. How could they see things so differently?

The longer I live the more I see this. People can see life from completely different perspectives and fully believe their experience is correct. So whose perspective is right? Was dad abusive or not?

We now live in a world where truth is relative to our experiences. I was even taught in psychology that what people think is true to them is well, true. Thus we need to counsel as though they were really abused, neglected, or mistreated in a job.

The further I get into this, the more I realize this doesn’t always work. I accidently enabled some people to live perpetual lives as the self-perceived victim. I have learned in the years of doing this that people sometimes need to be fired, and parents aren’t perfect. Sometimes perspectives are wrong and need to be corrected for the benefit of all involved. If truth is truly relative to any perspective, there isn’t any truth. Truth by nature must be exclusive. There are times someone has to be wrong. This is essential in many aspects of life.

John 8:31-32 says this: “So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed in him, ‘If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, 32 and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.’”

Most when reflecting on this verse focus on the phrase “the truth will set you free.” Though this is important, the key here is believing in Him (Christ) and the phrase “abide in my word.” To move to something deeper than finite flawed perspectives, you must believe in something that transcends them. Jesus made it really clear–we need a common reference point from which we should view life. Anyone looking for stability must wrestle through this.

2 thoughts on “We all ride the same rollercoaster!

  1. The final thought, wrestling, reminds me the Dec. 16th reading from Oswald Chambers. “You have to wrestle against the things that prevent you from getting to God, and you wrestle in prayer for other souls; but never say that you wrestle with God in prayer, it is scripturally untrue. If you do wrestle with God, you will be crippled all the rest of your life.” I remember in Genesis Jacob wrestled with the Lord and was put out of joint for it. So many times in our walk, we land on a wrong premise and, being convinced of our rightness (read: Pride), we wrestle. And, in His love, if we fail to respond to His attempts to disciple us unto righteousness, we are crippled. Oh that we should be moved by a feather and not a 2X4 upside the head.

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